Privacy
It’s funny what you see when you have Statcounter. I love analyzing how people are arriving at my site, what search terms lead them to me, what parts of the world are coming to Coy Pink, and what posts they’re looking at on my blog. Often times the search terms creep me out (“girl have fun with bugs on pussy” – really??). Most of the time they just make me laugh (“nipple on butt” – what?). Then there are times that I see things on my Statcounter that bother me. Someone is constantly trying to download pictures I have uploaded to the gallery but have not posted to my blog.
Just because I post nude photos of myself does not mean I want you to see all of me.
If I haven’t posted a picture on my blog, you don’t get to see it.
What’s mine is mine. If I want you to see it, I’ll post it.
We pay attention to who comments on the blog and have labeled certain IP addresses, so we can easily tell when people we know visit the blog. Therefore, we know who is trying to find unposted pictures. We have changed a few behind-the-scenes things (a new image on our 404 Error page) to try to discourage this intrusion, to no avail. The time for being subtle has passed.
No need to be coy is MY space. What I post here (and upload but do not post) belongs to ME. The fact that I share part of myself does not mean I wish to make my entire life an open book. Take what I give you and move on. You have no right to try to see everything just because I share some of it. This is about respect. If someone cannot respect my boundaries, I will lock them out.
Personally, I find it to be an invasion. And above all, it’s creepy. To do so once, is worth a bit of amused eyebrow-raising. To deliberately hunt and search for hidden things is reprehensible.
While I would be, for example, aroused at finding out someone peeped in my window once as they were walking by and saw an interesting shadow…..I would be repulsed and scared to find out that they looked in over and over, no matter what was going on.
There’s a line….and it’s been crossed here. *hugs*
I am sorry to read this and findout what this has been happening to you. As you know your HNT photos are some of my favorites and it is sad that someone cannot respect your privacy.
However, being stalked at times myself I know that there are some really fucked up and pitiful people out there on the WWW. Hopefully this will become bored and move on to somewhere else or maybe even possibly get an actual life.
**hugs**
Bummer. . . . and kinda freaky (not in the good way) and, really. . . get a life *person who won’t stop this nonsense*.
Honestly, I’m so internet UN-saavy that I didn’t even know people could get *more* than you give us if they tried. Guess that makes me naive.
Take good care and good for you for sayin’ something Miss Coy.
Go you.
Labeling IP addresses? I’m gonna have to check that out.
Yeah, seriously creepy to try and find stuff that you haven’t chosen to share.
Damn. Some folks seem to be a bit slow to take a hint. Best to be direct in those cases. Sorry you are having to deal with this invasion.
BTW – I *love* what you’ve done with your 404 page. ^_^
Love your 404 error page. You rock, at this person is a twit and more then likely not reading this.
I have to applaud your new 404 page. Now, I just need to go find a sharp stick to poke out my mind’s eye…..
Maybe I’m naive in the respect that I didn’t even realise that this was even possible prior to reading this. But I’m shocked/appalled/disgusted that someone would try to do this (and not to you b/c you’re my friend, but to anyone period).
This isn’t JUST about respect, it’s about common decency. I mean really, come on now. Who the hell do you think you are?!
I hope whoever it is, reads this or has read this & gets the (more than subtle) hint that the line has well and truly been crossed and s/he needs to stop. Right. Away.
I’m angry for you, and it begs the question has s/he been trying to do this on other blogs and we’re just not aware of it? Grrr!
At least you stood up and said “Back off!” You go, girl!
I would like to begin by commending you and your (obviously) Smart Alec on the terrific quality of the photography you feature on your site. It’s very nice stuff, quite professional!
I’d also like to say that nobody should every have to feel violated, or feel exposed . . .
However, it’s a lot more likely that somebody is going to feel violated or exposed if they forget to close the shades when they walk around their house naked . . . and unfortunately without a bit of internet savvy the same thing is true of blogging . . . if you’ve uploaded pictures that weren’t to be shared into any of your public html folders . . . it’s a bit like leaving a folder of your nude photos on the counter at Wal-Mart . . .
Any old “plain jane” web spider will show ALL files in your upload folders and other similar folders contained in the public html directory at your host . . . web spiders aren’t nefarious in purpose . . . in fact they are great for looking at your own site for SEO . . . and also to see if you’ve got any private goodies on the equivalent of the counter top @ Wal-Mart . . .
please keep on blogging and sharing what you like . . . you are both beautiful and your pictures are a wonderful expression of your love for each other . . . but remember that just a little more vigilance in protecting your private files . . . will empower you to avoid ever having to feel exposed or violated again . . .
if you want to store your unposted pictures in a safe manner . . . it’s best and safest not to leave them anywhere on a server . . . I’d suggest keeping anything you don’t want to be seen by the general public on a password protected USB drive . . . USB storage is affordable . . . discrete . . . and MUCH more secure than leaving something you don’t want out in public anywhere on a server . . .
Katzi,
Thank you as well for the compliments!
Let me explain a little bit more about the specifics. I take the photos and post-process the best ones, then I upload them to the WordPress media library for Coy to choose from when creating her blog post. Some images don’t get used, but might in some future post… but also might not. It’s really her decision whether to share them or not.
This person decided to hunt for other images based on the file name of the ones posted (eg. img_4100.jpg would trigger attempts at img_4101.jpg, img_4102.jpg, etc). I could create new filenames, but even that wasn’t enough one time (HNT bookworm post). I could create random names everytime, but I’m just lazy.
I know it isn’t quite the same behavior that you’re talking about here, but I saved one of your public photos just because I thought it was such a perfect shot (not as spank material). Now I’m thinking I should have asked permission. Would you like me to delete it?
Thanks for the compliment! No harm at all… I’m sure it’s done quite frequently.
Don’t you hate when you give so much of yourself and instead of being appreciative, some people just want more more more. Greedy and uncouth.